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Married to Nick for 13 years, with 2 children; Sabrina - 12 and Dominic - 11. I am a girlfriend through and through in that I love girly things and anything that celebrates the essence of being a woman. I love vintage, shabby chic, the country and try my best to do my bit for the environment. SO yes...we have 3 bins in our house and try our best to recycle! I believe that with everything in life, the closer we stick to nature, the better off we'll be. I would love to have a balance in life, but have learnt that balance is not always possible, so strive for significance instead, in the hopes that that will be just as meaningful, and the rest will hopefully follow.

Wednesday, November 4, 2009


First of all, thank you to Dr John Demartini for introducing me to these powerful words, and secondly to my friend, Vanessa Matthews - OODLES OF TALENT (um V, seriously gf - howz about an update on the BLOG!!!???), for doing them justice in the ART FORM, and making them SO PURTY, i could just stare at them all day :-)...... The first time I ever heard these words spoken, it put so much of what I believe, into a single phrase, which has now become one of my little mantras. In addition to that, I have shared and passed it on to anyone and everyone I know, who I've thought would benefit from it too.

SOO....I just had to put them out there this morning. Partly for me, but also for so many of the women I've spoken to over the last few months, who've admitted to having lost themselves:-). I'm smiling simply because, to a child who heard that, they would LOGICALLY try and work that one out and come up with this .....????????????LOL!!!... Aaaahhh..the complexities of being female, and MOTHERS!!!...heck....just being FEMALE ACTUALLY LOL! But seriously, how many times do you need to have the same conversation with different people every time, to know that so many of us are in the same boat, and frankly, I think this boat (read issue) is getting seriously overcrowded!! So maybe it's time to (pardon the cliche) 'sink or swim'. Well that was my theory anyways :-)

This morning I had SO many random thoughts flooding through my head, but it's the feeling behind it that I always pay the most attention to, and the feeling I had this morning was just....WOW...some year huh. 2008 was a good year on the HOMEfront, but 2009 has been all about the HEART, and OMGOSH, so weird that it just so happens that the heart shape is being celebrated in all forms this year - they literally are EVERYWHERE - brooches, charms, cushions, wooden hearts, rusted hearts, wire hearts...you name it - we even have the I HEART MARKET now in Durban once a month (which is DEFINITELY worth a visit).....blush...I'm digressing....it's just that I looooovvvve purty things so much, I'm a bit like a child chasing butterflies when it comes to things like that....

I guess what is foremost on my mind is just the shift that's taken place for me this year. I feel just that much closer to mastering, maybe not my life, but mastering me, which is where it starts really. I've forced myself to pay attention this year, to what I want and need. Standing in our truth, and being honest with ourselves can be daunting, but also so rewarding!!! And it's amazing how when you take that leap of faith that leads to action (KEY TO MOVING FORWARD!!), life responds, and coincidences happen, and things start to fall into place. I'm so grateful for the situations and people who have enriched my life this year, but truth be told, I was willing to let them in, because I was ready to. I really feel like I've reconnected with myself and my little world again. SO instead of my head spinning, it's my world that is slowly turning - AGAIN. But I had to put myself out there, and have a goal and a plan, and I surrounded myself with people who would make sure I would be accountable to seeing things through, ahem (blush)...which i knew might just be a problem - judging from some of the *unfinished* CRAFT projects around the house.

In order to cope with life and it's responsibilities, and keep everyone around us happy, so many of us choose (yes that would be me) to close the door on ourselves, the things we love, our dreams, our passions, our heartfelt thoughts, OUR TRUTH. How then will we hear that voice and vision on the inside clearly enough, to be and know who we really are????

So if anyone has LOST THEMSELVES...giggle...reporting to security to ask them to phone your Mommy is NOT GONNA HELP this time. You need to try and find yourself, YOURSELF! Here's a few tips whch helped me:-)

- firstly, spend some time taking note of all the things that "fill your tank" and give you that warm and fuzzy feeling.....and seriously if that doesn't work...EISH... :-o....you're a lost (excuse the pun) cause - KIDDING

- spend some time exploring ways of how to fit those feel good things into your day .... EVERYDAY, for at least 2 weeks or more (hopefully for EVA:-))
**Now remember, a habit takes 21 days to form, so try and make a habit of it**

- doing these things that make you happy, have to be done (and this was the hard part for me) for no rhyme or reason at all (I repeat - FNRORAA), just for FUN - and if you don't know what FUN means, phone a friend or ask OXFORD - but seriously - EISH - it's a 3 lettter word, how hard can it be???

- if you're worried about neglecting your responsibilities (oh hello???), then compile a list of things that you would like to do and have to do, and rate them - I did mine as follows:

LOVE IT - a pink thing
LIKE IT - a blue thing
LOATHE IT - a brown thing (brown is SO NOT my colour)
I have to have to do the PINK STUFF...that's what feeds me, BUT the brown stuff is also necessary, so I sometimes trade them off, a brown thing off the list, get's me a free pass to do a pink thing - blue things are for days when you're feeling "WHAT EVA", but you get the idea.

Try it!...and remember....it's important to do the things we HEART, to hear the voices inside (your HEART - not your HEAD)!
It's a GORGEOUS day here today, so I'm off to do a pink thing - revel in the sunshine, sieze the day and spread some HEART (love) :-)


  1. Hi Beryldene. Once again my soul has been fed whilst visiting here. Thanks for the inspiration and pick-me-up. You really have a wonderful way with words.

  2. whoa girlfriend..... who needs a psychologist with a friend like you :), honestly, so inspiring - thanks.
    ooo and noticed that there is a "the" missing in the quote (he he), updated it after I emailed the wordings to you (insert smirk here).
    ummm, blog, think I forgotten how to update it now. So much to do (well make) and so little time.

  3. you preach it sister !!! we all needed to hear that ...thanks for taking the time to share cause as my big purple friend BARNEY always says ...SHARING IS CARING!!! tee hee - love you lots and always will, Linda

  4. Thanks for such an inspirational blog post. I love the way you have with words. I agree with Venessa - who needs a psychologist when you are around. Hope you enjoyed your "pink thing" you did.

  5. Ok, that was DEEP as in seriously DEEP ... and even though we "know" these things, a reminder is always good ... you could put a gorgeous pink velvet embroidered chaise lounge on your verandah and charge by the hour ... you ARE that good ...

    I love to come here ... makes me feel like roaring "I AM WOMAN!!" ...

    Thanks so much for your inspiration ...

    Love, T

  6. P.S. What's with the licencing restriction nonsense on our Playlists??? I deleted mine coz every song I like has a restriction for SA ... sucks!!!

    Tee hee ... Love, T

  7. listen gf, i am sooooooooooo over this post by now....needs an update, I neeeeeeeeeed food for my soul

  8. Haven't been to your blog in a while, and boy, am I glad I visited. The new look is awesome and the words a delight! It was like drinking tea with a good friend as I haven't read any since your holiday blog (no stress that it wasn't completed coz I wasn't there to read it....!)I spent a wonderful half hour catching up and have to thank you for your snippets of perspective. Merry Christmas and keep the sanity coming!

  9. Hey Anita, glad you reading Bee's blog she is a total inspiration and one of my best people in the world - even if she has left us hanging for nearly TWO months (hint hint gf)....hope you had a wonderful christmas Bee

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