I then read something interesting in another self help book last night..., (I HIGHLY recommend, "The Monk who sold his Ferrari"), that in a study done of people's thoughts, which we know amounts to about 60 000 thoughts a day - (ahem...we can HALVE THAT for our male counterparts!! LOL!) ...of those 60 000 thoughts, up to 90% of them, are exactly the same thoughts we had the day before....oh no...you have GOT to be kidding me...truly!??? No seriously, I'm embarrassed!...but let's be honest, it's true...we rehash the same stuff over and over and over in our minds...ad nauseum....and then we sometimes wonder why nothing changes??...but it's true of course that our thoughts need to change before we can...oh and wait...my favourite one (yes yes gf's - I know some of you hear this one over and over), but my best is, 'if you always do what you've always done, you'll always get, what you've always got'....
So with that in mind, back to my story, ...one of the things I CONSTANTLY fret about are our children becoming anti-social, techno geeks and/or couch potato TV addicts, and therefore TV and pc's are "outlawed" in our home (me to my DH.."it's the devil I tell you"!!), and we therefore have strict times within which "the twins" (same height, same gene pool, same thing) are allowed to partake of the "forbidden fruit". On the flip side, I then worry that they may become fixated and/or (even worse) the total opposite - "techno phobes" (like some baby boomers I know), in a world where technology rules, (sweating) due to being deprived of things like playstation 1, 2 and 3, and tv on weekdays.
So after much deliberation (years) DH and I decide to take a leap of faith, and introduce some form of "pc/playstation type game" into our home...enter the WII ...(this is big). We then wait with baited breath for the WII hype/overkill/hysteria/"we don't want to do anything else but play WII" to start, ......tap tap... nothing...tap tap...still nothing...and so guess what they spent 5 hours doing on Friday.....?...uh uh...not WII.....but SQUATTING in the garden...building "informal settlements" on the lawn...ie. good old fashioned outdoor play...flitting in and out of the flower beds like little garden gnomes.....and I'm thinking ...."what on earth were 'WII' (me) so worried about??????".
oh bee we are all the same - and look - our children are balanced and normal and they will grow up just fine they will go thru pubity and develop and freak out and find their feet in life - with or without the tv and the Wii. so well done girlfriend - they look pretty darn healthy and balanced to me.miss you lots, linda
ReplyDeletehave no idea why i am now listed as anonymous???? anyhoo its me linda
ReplyDeleteI reckon we should pat ourselves on the back for a job well done in raising our kids - we're doing ok ....
ReplyDeleteAbout those thought things - I believe you girl!!! I fret about the same things day in and day out!! It's freaking exhausting and the sad news is that I add something more to yesterdays frets everyday - freak of nature!!! I must have at least 120k a day and adding ... wish I were a man ... Did I just say that???? ewwwwww .... I take it back!!! The hair growth all over freaks me out!!!! It's bad enough that as a woman I have to pluck and wax and stuff .... ewww ....
Thanks for the inspiration ...
Love, Tracy
P.S. I'm still "pimping" my hubby for a dishwasher ... tee hee ...
Thanks for your thoughtful comment on my blog. I know time is a serious factor for all, inclucing me. Love your brightly coloured photos. Sad that you say you have no time anymore to scrap...
ReplyDeleteHey gf...love the post and I am so with you on the worrying....some wise person once said it is like sitting in a rocking chair, gives you something to do but gets you nowhere...so everyday I try and stand up from that rocker, especially where my 3 precious children are concerned, but I always end up there again I am afraid...sigh.
ReplyDeleteGreat photos....miss those little faces!
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Love reading this post, which is so true about us humans ... fretting about things we have no control over. But, we try not to, but find ourselves fretting over and over again. Have a good Wednesday. Hugs from Desire
ReplyDeleteGreat post and oh, so true. I must say when my children were growing up I always encouraged them to go and play outside and never ever put them in front of a TV with a video! I try and live by the saying "Don't sweat the small stuff".
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